Limitations, restrictions, and ethical use

    Hey there folks, I just wanted to drop in to mention an issue that's actually come up probably even more than data recovery or ransomware. Throughout my almost 20 year career in IT, I've had one consistent issue that people ask for all the time that I simply can't help with, and I really want to bring this up as a "please understand what you're asking before you ask it" type thing.

    The issue I speak of is any of the many variations of "hack my spouse" type issues. This could be "I need access to my spouse's facebook," "I need access to my spouse's email," "can you monitor my spouse's computer remotely," "my ex did this and I want evidence, it's on his phone," etc...  There's even been some variants with people dumb enough to say "I need access to this girl I'm stalking" and variants around e-girls and doxxing. The short and sweet of the problem isn't just that these things are fundamentally illegal, which they are and by asking for them you run the risk of "conspiracy to commit" charges on top of it, but that what you're asking for is for someone else to be brought into whatever relationship as a go-between for your own bad actions. A proxy if you will. You're wanting information, evidence, truth, whatever in a situation where you can't have it and that's frustrating. I understand its frustrating to live in such a technological world where someone can spy on you at any minute all the time, yet you can't find out who you're being cheated on for, because people lie and simply won't tell you.

    Stop asking this. But better yet, stop wanting this.

    I say that not to be rude or condescending but the most common story, men and women alike, is that they've justified in their mind doing something they'd never want done to them in order to solve for whats important to them at the time. Sadly, whats important to them at the time isn't getting out of a bad relationship, it's not usually escaping the problem, it's mostly keeping control over the relationship and eliminating opposition.

    My advice I'd give everyone is simple, same advice I give my best friends, family, worst enemies, everyone. Stop, take a look around. You may have kids involved, you may have others involved in some way, or you may only be trying to take care of yourself. But this will never yield the results you want. Sure, someone could hack into your wife's email, facebook, computer, and phone. Sure someone could monitor your husband at all times. The results you'll get is someone knowing how to victimize you and your spouse again and again. You're inviting someone to things that should be private, because of jealousy or lack of control, only to never have control again. You won't fix your relationship by knowing if your man is cheating. You won't stop your ex from trying to ruin your life by seeing all their activity.

    In the cases of people wanting this types of activity so that they can prevent someone ruining their life or hurting them, it's actually far better and easier to do those the old fashioned way. Why hack into their facebook and stop them from spreading rumors when you can easily pull the ol' switcharoo and let them spew nonsense, publicly, then simply turn it into a "look how much I'm still on her mind, yet she cheated on me". Ex trying to take the kids? The only solid advice anyone should be giving you is document everything. Every interaction you have record, every time you talk, write notes with dates and times. Every time something happens involving the kids document their reactions, your reactions, the children's reactions, everything. That's not just how you win in court, but how you keep them from disappearing with your children. The easiest way to disappear, and its used against men all the time where i live, is to go find someone to live off of and stop recording where you live. Then, after multiple years, update your documents to show you've been living there and immediately file for "absentee parent" being removed from custodial rights, claiming you don't know where they live now. The hope you have of stopping this is compelling a court to require them access, then when they fail to appear and you don't see your child due to them failing any agreement the court set out, then and only then can you file a missing child report, which when they try to come back up from underground to betray your rights, they'll be slapped with abduction charges instead of taking your rights away.

    I hope this show cases all the ways asking for such things will never be the solution. Even if/when technologically possible, even with minimal effort, its just not worth your time or your local IT guys, hackers, etc...

Thanks for reading

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